We cannot send another to do it for us; it is accessible to each and every one of us. It just depends on the decision of one’s heart and the expression of one’s lips to begin the process of reconciliation. No relationship need suffer unending tension and/or estrangement, because the pathway to repair is close at hand.
Our Torah portion this week is Nitzavim – Deut. 29:9-30:20. We read: “Surely, this Instruction which I enjoin upon you this day is not too baffling for you, nor is it beyond reach.
It is not in the heavens, that you should say, ‘Who among us can go up to the heavens and get it for us and impart it to us, that we may observe it?’
Neither is it beyond the sea, that you should say, ‘Who among us can cross to the other side of the sea and get it for us and impart it to us, that we may observe it?’
No, the thing is very close to you, in your mouth and in your heart, to observe it.” (Deut. 30:11-14)
What is “this Instruction”? From the passage, the meaning is not very clear. Because text that precedes it deals with teshuva, repentance, many commentators have come to see “this Instruction” as teshuva. With that in mind, this passage comes to teach us that the possibility of repairing a relationship with God or with our family or friends is never far away.